An Unlikely Thanksgiving

“Your dad’s going for surgery. He should be back home in about a week.”

That was my mom, telling me the news over the phone nearly three weeks ago.

I’m writing this from my dad’s hospital room. It’s Thanksgiving day.

There’s no turkey. There’s no big family gathering with kids running around. There’s no parade or movie marathon.

It’s just my mom, my dad, and myself in a small hospital room. My dad has been here for 21 days.

I’m typing this on a hospital recliner, sitting next to mom and dad. It will also serve as my bed. The room is sterile and cluttered, but it will be my home for the next three days. I don’t complain; mom’s been living here in this room, at my dad’s side, throughout the entire ordeal.

Dad’s conscious but he’s weak. He’s lost a considerable amount of weight. He has an endless stream of IV fluids connected to him. There are beeps and bloops from surrounding equipment. Despite his current state, he is on the road to recovery. I am thankful for that.

Mom’s in the adjacent hospital bed. She’s exhausted beyond words. My presence here has afforded her some much needed rest. And for that I am also thankful.

I barely recognized my father when I arrived at the hospital this afternoon. Dad’s lost a good 20 lbs. His face is gaunt. He is tired, but despite his general discomfort and pain, he stood up from his bed to greet me when I arrived. His sleep is restless. The IV supply forces him to use the restroom almost every hour. Nearly every hour or so, a nurse comes in to check on him.

This isn’t how I pictured spending Thanksgiving, but in an odd way, it’s what I needed to experience.

You see – for me Thanksgiving isn’t about turkey, Black Friday sales, or football. It’s about recognizing that the time you have with the ones you love is finite and precious. That it’s important to not throw away or squander the opportunities you have to spend time with the ones you love.

I have never been more reminded of that fact than now.


These beautiful and intelligent people wrote

  • Adam
    November 23, 2012 at 5:08 pm

    I hope he gets better soon. I’ve had similar experiences and it is a very tough time.

    • Krishna
      November 23, 2012 at 7:24 pm

      Thanks, Adam.

  • Brian
    November 23, 2012 at 7:44 pm

    Krishna, my prayers and best wishes to you and your family. Godspeed to your father on his road to recovery. Peace and love.

  • emjay
    November 23, 2012 at 8:06 pm

    A hug to you and your family. And a long-distance call to my mom and dad. Thank you for reminding me of life beyond my own little world.

  • CJ
    November 25, 2012 at 12:47 pm

    Best wishes for a speedy and full recovery. You are creating an example for your daughter on how to prioritize the important things in life. Lifetime memories and commitment over moments of tradition and enjoyment.

  • Lubna
    November 26, 2012 at 9:18 am

    Big hug to you wishes for a speedy recovery to ur dad..ur a GREAT son! All my love n best wishes to your dad n mum..

  • MasterMacMaverick
    November 27, 2012 at 1:05 am

    My strength to you and your family. I too have been on both sides of that experience.

  • Jose Gonzalez
    November 27, 2012 at 5:40 am

    Power to your soul, and health to all your family. I give thanks that we’re all here to support each other. Glad to hear there’s healing going on, and that everyone is together. That’s what what really counts.